Does this sound familiar?
It’s about to be dinner time, the kids are screaming, dinner is not ready yet, the house is a mess, and you just want to shut down. Is this a common occurrence in your house? Are you feeling overwhelmed with parenting and all that comes with it? You are not alone.
No one told you parenting was going to be like this.
Before having kids, everyone tells you how wonderful parenting is. And it is, it really is…most of the time….
But what about the struggles? What about the times when you feel so overwhelmed you just want to scream?
Or the times that you feel exhausted and you just want to collapse where you are and sleep?
What about when you feel so alone that you think no one will even remember what you look like by the time you see another human being again?
What about the moment you realize you are losing who you are to make your kids and spouse a priority?
Do you every wonder why? Why didn’t anyone tell me these things? Do you ever think to yourself “I didn’t realize it would be this hard”?
We have all been there, you are not alone in this. All parents have these struggles.
Let’s work together to address them and create a family life that we love, not one that we are just trying to survive.
Have you noticed as a parent that you are putting yourself last? Everyone else in your family, the kids, your spouse, sometimes even the pet is more important than you. I get it, that makes sense, but what if putting yourself first is exactly what your family needs?
One of the greatest gifts you can give anyone who loves you is to love yourself first. This can be so difficult as a parent to do. The kids are always a worry spot in your mind. You worry about if they are fed, if they are clean. You wonder, do they have what they need to play. Are they on track developmentally? Are they doing well in school? Will they grow up to be decent human beings? Are they happy?
But guess what…none of those things will be enough if you aren’t happy along with them. Kids can sense when a parent is down and they most certainly can sense when a parent is happy and thriving. And either way, it WILL reflect on them.
Have you ever been on a plane? Do you remember what the flight attendant always (and I mean ALWAYS) says? The announcement goes: “In an emergency, place your oxygen mask on yourself, BEFORE assisting others”. You can’t help anyone if you can’t breathe yourself. This is also true in life. As difficult as it is to put ourselves first, you need to remember to do it. You are not helping anyone if you are slowly killing yourself, mentally or physically.
It is time to love yourself! It is time to accept who and where you are in your life! Be proud of the person you are. And if you find you can’t do that, then it is time to change some things. It is your choice if you want to be happy or not. Choose to be happy.
Change can be difficult. Putting yourself first and changing your perspective is a challenge. Let me help you with simple things you can do now that can help you change your attitude toward yourself and change your life.
Choose to love yourself, choose to be happy. Your family will thank you for it later!